Deanna King Activity Paper 2 How do you identify? I identify as an English, Irish, and Scottish female who is heterosexual. My family does not know a whole lot about our ancestry and did not know a lot when I was growing up. In fact, I was always told we were Irish and Indian, but I never knew for sure. I was fortunate enough to be able to do my DNA on Ancestry website last year that gave me some insight on my ancestry. It showed that I am English, Irish, and Scottish and my ancestors came over from England. They made their home on what is now known as the Appalachian Trail. Most of my family were quite poor and from Tennessee and Kentucky. The way my culture is layered is talked about in the beginning of Chapter 5 where the author points out that many of us experience multiple layers of culture simultaneously. I also belong theco culturesof being female and lower middle class. Co cultures were talked about in the beginning of Chapter 5. They are cultures that exist within the most dominant culture. How does your identity affect how you communicate with others? My culture affects the way I communicate with others as how I act as a woman and my income class. I have had to be humble and act certain ways like submissive with men before that were my superiors. This is called ahigh-power distance culture. (Chapter 5) I am Caucasian and have not experienced things that those that are marginalized have experienced. This was talked about in Chapter 5 as alow power distance cultureand the US is in the middle as practicing both compared to other countries. It also affects the way I communicate with others as it has held me back from being around cultures that are different than mine. I feel I grew up in a bubble that did not encourageintercultural communication.
Deanna King Activity Paper 2 How do you think your perceived identities influence how others communicate with you? I think that since I am a Caucasian, I have not experienced travesties others have. I also believe that as a woman I am expected to be overly nurturing and a perfect mom. I have had to tell people that I did not raise my children, their father did. This has made some view me as not a good Mother. I feel also my identities are supposed to be unaffected byprejudicebecause I am part of the dominant culture which was spoke of in Chapter 5. It also affects how others communicate with me because I don't have a lot of money, so I have been called trash and poor by cruel people, even shunned by peers in jobs because I don't have a nice car or a certain brand purse. And that is coming from grown adults. Do you see a difference between sex and gender? If so, how do you distinguish between the two? If not, how are they the same? Yes, I do see a difference in sex and gender. I distinguish between them as sex being the external genitalia you were born with, and gender is what society perceives you should be based on your born sex.Gender Identityis the gender you feel and identify with, and you prefer to live as. Gender roles are enforced from the time we are born, and I have learned that your gender is way more complex than just what genitalia we have. How does your gendered identity, or perceived identity, affect your communication? It affects my communication because I am a woman, and I am not supposed to act certain ways or do certain things that women. For example, I often surprise people when they learn I have been to prison. They are surprised a pretty, soft spoken woman like me would do such things as breaking laws to fuel a drug addiction. This affects me because people assume things and then make me feel judged. Chapter 6 talks about gender roles. Females are supposed to have a certain
Deanna King Activity Paper 2 set of rules that they are to follow. They are looked at as defective as a female if they do not follow these rules. They talk about that also in Chapter 5 asfeminine cultural values. When have you stereotyped a person or a group? I have stereotyped a group before by falling into the assumptions about Asians as being smarter than other races. And I have also assumed that all African Americans are prejudiced to Caucasians. I grew up with an abusive, racially biased stepfather that pushed those stereotypes. I realized as I got older is that they are false assumptions. He was displayingethnocentrism, thinking one race is dominant than all others. I also grew up with a family that expected females to be perfect mothers and never make a mistake. There was quite a bit of mental health and addiction issues in my family, and I was removed from the home at age 15. Have you experienced any stereotypes that have had a negative impact on how you see yourself or how you move in the world? If so, how did that experience cause a shift? If not, why do you think that is? Yes, I have experienced stereotypes that have had a negative impact on my life. I have experienced being thought of as defective and untrustworthy because I am in recovery from alcohol and drugs. And, because I am diagnosed with mental health issues. Not to mention I was in foster care and grew up estranged from my family so people sometimes stereotyped me as a bad kid or troublemaker. People have made assumptions about me from those things. It is nothing however compared to some of the stereotypes and disadvantages others have endured. Those stereotypes I listed are not talked about as frequently as race, class, and sex. I used to be unable to control my emotions when I was younger, and it also held me back. That was part of my mental health issues. I am more sensitive, reserved and more stand offish than most people