Heart of Texas LT

Heart of Texas Lindsey Till Conflict Management and Negotiation COMM 450 Sarah Pitts July 14, 2023
Part 1: What are the principles of forgiveness? We know that there are many parts and principles to understanding forgiveness. The biggest and most important principle that I have found is compassion for the other person that has wronged you. Grover could have easily been angry and never spoke to that man again for killing his daughter. That would honestly be a very human reaction to have. Grover chose to not hold anger in his heart, he chose to have compassion and understanding in this terrible situation. Another principle of forgiveness is memory. You shouldn't just forget what someone has done too you. That kind of thought process can lead to a scary and potentially dangerous relationship with the person you have chosen to forgive. You also need to be aware of cheap apologies or cheap grace. Cheap grace is when forgiveness is forced by someone and not truly forgiven for what has happened. This can cause strain in a relationship because past mistakes that were said to be forgiven may not actually be forgiven. Part 2: Understanding the principles of forgiveness Now that we understand that we need compassion and good memory when it comes to forgiveness, let's talk more about understanding the principles. In Elder Faust's conference talk where he told the story about the milkman, it truly moved my heart and soul. It showed me that forgiveness is not only about compassion, but it is something that can be taught. We can teach compassion and forgiveness. We can share the love of the world with others. This story really struck me that even if people are of different backgrounds and such, we are all here together to love and strive for a better life. We need to be forgiving, loving, and understanding of one another.
It can be so difficult in the situation like the milkman story or the Heart of Texas movie, to be as forgiving as those people. Those stories seem unreal and not something you could ever do in your own life. I don't think anyone could ever be expected to react the same way as Grover or the Amish community. I do believe that if we teach and share stories like these, then we can make it a more normal part of our society. Make it where we are more compassionate and understanding. We need more of that in our world and society. We already have so much hate and anger that divides us. We need to be united and share that love and compassion with others. Part 3: Real life application of forgiveness In regard to Ms. Ruvolo story about getting her face smashed with a frozen turkey and she asked for a smaller sentence to the person that did that to her, but she stated she didn't forgive him I think this is powerful and shows that sometimes you can have compassion. You can do the right thing and show compassion but not truly forgive someone for what they did to you. This is different from what President Hinckley said that you need repentance and forgiveness to be whole again. It could be that Ms. Ruvolo is not seeing the true repentance on the part of the teen who did that to her, or she is waiting to see how he turns his life around after the prison sentence. She may come to forgive him after he has gotten out of prison and show that he has truly repented of his sins and tried to make a better life for himself. Though this is not for Ms. Ruvolo to judge, she is not the great judge at the end of the day. She did the right thing by showing compassion, but she needs to work on inner reflection to forgive that teen for what he did to her.
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