Chapter 9 Principles of Interpersonal Relationships

Chapter 9: Principles of Interpersonal Communication November 18, 2020 https://quizlet.com/239511417/principles-of-communication-chapter-8-flash-cards/ (Quiz Ans) What is Interpersonal Communication? ● Interpersonal Communication: communication between two people in which the messages exchanged significantly impact the thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships of the people involved. ● Characteristics: ○ Transactional — both parties contribute to the meaning created during the communication. ○ Dynamic — constantly changing; your perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and emotions are continually shifting. ○ Relational — builds bonds with others ○ Impactful — impacts the thoughts, emotions, behavior, and relationships for the people taking part in it. What is Impersonal Com? (This is what the extra credit is about) ● Impersonal communication: is the opposite of Interpersonal communication; has a negligible or insignificant impact on your thoughts emotions behavior in relationships → No personal ties or relationship at all; general info ● Communication is: ○ used to give basic information such as company policies instructions or facts ○ include methods such as: memos, letters, emails, voicemail, manuals, bulletin, boards, etc. ■ Ex. Forever21 sending me coupons or CSM emails → mass emails & texts Why Form Relationships? ● Interpersonal relationships are the emotional, mental, and physical involvement that you forge with others through communication. ● Five factors influence weather these relationships form: 1.) Proximity — It's easier; You're more likely to pursue relationships with whom you have frequent contact with either face-to-face or online; mere exposure effect. 2.) Resources — The value/desired qualities people have. ○ Social Exchange Theory : we feel drawn to people who offer substantial benefits with few costs. i.) Ex. recommendation letter, money, etc. 3.) Similarities — (aka "Birds of a feather " effect) We seek romantic Partnerships, close family involvements, friendships, and work relationships with those whom we see similar to ourselves; those who are alike tend to stay together. 4.) Reciprocal Liking: We are attracted to people also like us

○ When it comes to romantic involvements, studies show that this is the most common factor leading to love. 5.) Physical Attractiveness: We didn't go off the people we consider as physically attractive; Beware of the "beautiful is good" effect. Types of Relationships → Friendship : Is a voluntary interpersonal relationship characterized by intimacy and liking. ● Liking: Friends are people you like and enjoy spending time with ● Choice: Freedom in choosing friends ● Shared Interests: Similarity and interest; less stable and more likely to change → Workplace Relationship: Are the affiliation to have professional peers, supervisors, subordinates, or mentors. ● Varies along three dimensions: ○ Status: The equality or inequality of relationship partners ○ Intimacy: Can we strictly professional or deeply intimate ○ Degrees of choice: Willingly engaged relationships → Family Relationships: Are incredibly diverse and constantly in flux. ● They are network of people who: ○ Share their lives over long periods of time ○ Are bound by marriage, blood, or commitment ○ Consider themselves as a family ○ Share a significant history and anticipated future of functioning in a family relationship ● Shared Identity: often strong among family members ○ Ex. when family members exchange stories, the way they deal with conflict, talk with one another, and their common history all contribute to a sense of shared identity. ● Multiple Roles: refers to how family members are constantly juggling multiple times ● Emotional Complexity: Explains how members of the same family typically experience both warm and antagonistic feelings towards on each other at various times → Romantic Relationships: Are interpersonal involvement in which the participants perceive the Bond as romantic and I rooted in perception . ● LIKE vs LOVE ○ Liking: A feeling of affection and respect ○ Loving: A more intense emotional connection consisting of intimacy, caring, and attachment. ● PASSION vs COMPANION ○ Passionate: A more intense emotional and physical longing; consisting of intimacy, caring, and attachment; linked with sexual desire. ○ Compassionate: An intense form of liking with an emotional investment and close intertwining of two people's lives . Relationship Stages → Coming together stages illustrate one possible flow of relationship development.

● Initiating: The state when you size up a new person to decide whether you want to get to know that person better. ● Experimenting: stage begins when you exchange demographic information such as names, majors, hometowns. ● Intensifying: occurs when you and the other person begin to share much more personal information about yourselves; strong feelings of attraction are present. ○ Things can go wrong here, you can go through the first 3 steps SO QUICK → one night stands. ○ Until you actually say "this is my girlfriend/boyfriend" → you are friends with benefits. ● Integrating: Starts when you and your partner's personality seem to blend , you both engage in activities and interests that clearly join you together as a couple, and use language expressing your new identity. ○ when two become one socially; no question that you're together; a public commitment; a 'title' ■ Ex. holding hands in public (Zj holding my hand in the hallways for the first time) ● Bonding: the ultimate stage of coming together and is a public ritual that announces to the world that you and your romantic partner have made a commitment to one another; French has become roommates or business partners. ○ The only way to bond is by moving together, getting engaged, or getting married-- otherwise, you are only integrating. → Coming Apart ● Coming apart stages usually occur as we begin to become less intimate with a relationship partner. ○ Differentiating: The first stage of coming up part when the beliefs, attitudes, and values that distinguish you from your partner come to dominate your thoughts and communication. ○ Circumscribing: Begins when one or both of you respond to problematic differences by ignoring them and spending less time talking. ○ Stagnating: begins when the circumscribing become so severe that you and the other person have almost no safe topics you can talk about and communication what slows to a standstill. ■ In other words, no growth, no movement, standing still, not talking to each other; it takes two, it can't be one sided