Chapter 9 Principles of Interpersonal Relationships

Chapter 9: Principles of Interpersonal Communication November 18, 2020 (Quiz Ans) What is Interpersonal Communication? Interpersonal Communication: communication between two people in which the messages exchanged significantly impact the thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships of the people involved. Characteristics: Transactional — both parties contribute to the meaning created during the communication. Dynamic — constantly changing; your perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and emotions are continually shifting. Relational — builds bonds with others Impactful — impacts the thoughts, emotions, behavior, and relationships for the people taking part in it. What is Impersonal Com? (This is what the extra credit is about) Impersonal communication: is the opposite of Interpersonal communication; has a negligible or insignificant impact on your thoughts emotions behavior in relationships → No personal ties or relationship at all; general info Communication is: used to give basic information such as company policies instructions or facts include methods such as: memos, letters, emails, voicemail, manuals, bulletin, boards, etc. Ex. Forever21 sending me coupons or CSM emails → mass emails & texts Why Form Relationships? Interpersonal relationships are the emotional, mental, and physical involvement that you forge with others through communication. Five factors influence weather these relationships form: 1.) Proximity — It's easier; You're more likely to pursue relationships with whom you have frequent contact with either face-to-face or online; mere exposure effect. 2.) Resources — The value/desired qualities people have. Social Exchange Theory : we feel drawn to people who offer substantial benefits with few costs. i.) Ex. recommendation letter, money, etc. 3.) Similarities — (aka "Birds of a feather " effect) We seek romantic Partnerships, close family involvements, friendships, and work relationships with those whom we see similar to ourselves; those who are alike tend to stay together. 4.) Reciprocal Liking: We are attracted to people also like us
When it comes to romantic involvements, studies show that this is the most common factor leading to love. 5.) Physical Attractiveness: We didn't go off the people we consider as physically attractive; Beware of the "beautiful is good" effect. Types of Relationships → Friendship : Is a voluntary interpersonal relationship characterized by intimacy and liking. Liking: Friends are people you like and enjoy spending time with Choice: Freedom in choosing friends Shared Interests: Similarity and interest; less stable and more likely to change → Workplace Relationship: Are the affiliation to have professional peers, supervisors, subordinates, or mentors. Varies along three dimensions: Status: The equality or inequality of relationship partners Intimacy: Can we strictly professional or deeply intimate Degrees of choice: Willingly engaged relationships → Family Relationships: Are incredibly diverse and constantly in flux. They are network of people who: Share their lives over long periods of time Are bound by marriage, blood, or commitment Consider themselves as a family Share a significant history and anticipated future of functioning in a family relationship Shared Identity: often strong among family members Ex. when family members exchange stories, the way they deal with conflict, talk with one another, and their common history all contribute to a sense of shared identity. Multiple Roles: refers to how family members are constantly juggling multiple times Emotional Complexity: Explains how members of the same family typically experience both warm and antagonistic feelings towards on each other at various times Romantic Relationships: Are interpersonal involvement in which the participants perceive the Bond as romantic and I rooted in perception . LIKE vs LOVE Liking: A feeling of affection and respect Loving: A more intense emotional connection consisting of intimacy, caring, and attachment. PASSION vs COMPANION Passionate: A more intense emotional and physical longing; consisting of intimacy, caring, and attachment; linked with sexual desire. Compassionate: An intense form of liking with an emotional investment and close intertwining of two people's lives . Relationship Stages Coming together stages illustrate one possible flow of relationship development.
Initiating: The state when you size up a new person to decide whether you want to get to know that person better. Experimenting: stage begins when you exchange demographic information such as names, majors, hometowns. Intensifying: occurs when you and the other person begin to share much more personal information about yourselves; strong feelings of attraction are present. Things can go wrong here, you can go through the first 3 steps SO QUICK → one night stands. Until you actually say "this is my girlfriend/boyfriend" → you are friends with benefits. Integrating: Starts when you and your partner's personality seem to blend , you both engage in activities and interests that clearly join you together as a couple, and use language expressing your new identity. when two become one socially; no question that you're together; a public commitment; a 'title' Ex. holding hands in public (Zj holding my hand in the hallways for the first time) Bonding: the ultimate stage of coming together and is a public ritual that announces to the world that you and your romantic partner have made a commitment to one another; French has become roommates or business partners. The only way to bond is by moving together, getting engaged, or getting married-- otherwise, you are only integrating. → Coming Apart Coming apart stages usually occur as we begin to become less intimate with a relationship partner. Differentiating: The first stage of coming up part when the beliefs, attitudes, and values that distinguish you from your partner come to dominate your thoughts and communication. Circumscribing: Begins when one or both of you respond to problematic differences by ignoring them and spending less time talking. Stagnating: begins when the circumscribing become so severe that you and the other person have almost no safe topics you can talk about and communication what slows to a standstill. In other words, no growth, no movement, standing still, not talking to each other; it takes two, it can't be one sided
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