Discussion 5

Reflect on the usefulness of Non Violent Communication method( What you are feeling? 2 - What makes your life better?) and SCARF model. How would you apply the two tools in your daily life? Use two concrete examples for each tool (4 total examples). Be specific, concrete, and original (absolutely no copying and pasting). Emphasize your role, but do not forget that the tools have little meaning for only one of the individuals involved. Your Discussion should be at least 250 words in length, but not more than 750 words. Use APA citations and references for any sources used. This learning this week and the past weeks on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and the SCARF model has impacted my life in many ways including how I communicate effectively with others without instigating aggression and tension. It is also useful in another sphere of life with some of the examples given below. Nonviolent Communication (NVC): Workplace Relationship . One of the areas of NVC is identifying your feelings. The type includes identifying one feeling and stating one's request. For instance, at work, it is normal to experience workplace conflict or disagreement. For example, I had a colleague who was always disturbing me with unending requests for assistance that always extended to distractions and disturbance. I had to understand how I felt (disturbed and uncomfortable) (Nuty, 2011). I needed my space and respect. Because of my understanding of the NVC, I didn't react harshly but approached the colleague with empathy while explaining how I felt with a simple request. For example, I have noticed that you always trust my judgement in giving you advice, could we have an agreed time for your request to accommodate other responsibilities that I have to meet up on my job too? I tried to not blame but to find a way to collaborate and resolve the problem while expressing my feelings.
Family Conflict Matters: This happened when some of my family members frustrated me with demands and must respect their entitlement mentality to always support them. I have used NVC to acknowledge their concerns and suppress tension and argument by expressing my feelings, concerns, and my need for personal space and respect. I tried to talk to them to express my feelings such as I understand that the pressure is on you, however, I also need my personal space and the need to find a balance between meeting family needs and fostering a good relationship with a family member(Rock, 2008). . SCARF Model: Autonomy . I have used autonomy in my business and personal lives. I apply autonomy- ability to have control over an event (Rock, 2008). I have always given my customers and business client autonomy to make purchase decision including changes and return if they feel that the offering does not meet what they need at that time. It is a way to ensure cooperation and successful business transactions. Fairness : The perception of fair exchange between people. As a leader, I have come to realize that it is imperative to give my team equity and fairness in all ramifications to prevent tension, disapproval, feelings of being cheated, double standards, and bias (Rock, 2008). I endeavoured to give equal opportunities to my team members and acknowledge their good work with rewards. This model promoted recognition, effective communication, increased probity, and transparency. I strongly opine that both Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and the SCARF are great tools to foster effective communication and relationships in individuals and teams. People become aware of self-feelings and the need to respect and consider how others feel (social management) with
the intention of increasing relationship, collaboration, effective communication, and workplace harmony. References. Nuty, J. (2011). A training manual on non violent communication . Society for Nutrition Education and Health Action. Rock, D. (2008). SCARF: A brain-based model for collaborating with and influencing others. NeuroLeadership Journal, 1 .
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